THE SMALL PICTURE (SENT BY Srj) AND THE QUESTIONS RAISED BY ME IN MY PREVIOUS ITEM "INNOCENCE CAN WE RETAIN IT " HAVE RESULTED IN TWO COMMENTS ONE FROM UDAYABHASKAR (VISITOR) AND THE OTHER FROM Srj (MEMBER)
I AM WRITING THIS BLOG AS A SORT OF REPLY TO THEIR COMMENTS AND ALSO FOR PERUSAL BY OTHER CO-BLOGGERS, BUT I HAVE CHOSEN TO QUOTE FROM FAMOUS AUTHORS.
THE VALUES BY WHICH WE LIVE,AND THE VALUES WHICH WE CONVEY TO OUR CHILDREN ARE OUR MOST IMPORTANT SOCIAL ISSUES.NOTHING MORE POWERFULLY DETERMINES THE SHAPE OF A CHILD'S LIFE THAN HIS/HER VALUES,INTERNAL PROCESS, BELIEFS,SENSE OF RIGHT AND WRONG.A CHILD'S VALUES,MORE THAN HIS RACE,CLASS,SEX,ETHNICITY,NEIGHBOURHOOD,GENES,OR BACKGROUND WILL DETERMINE THE CHILD'S FATE.AND IT IS GIVEN TO FAMILIES PRE-EMINENTLY TO PROVIDE THESE VALUES (WILLIAM BENNETT AUTHOR OF THE BOOK OF GREAT MORAL STORIES)
THE ISSUE FOR US AS PARENTS, FAMILY MEMBERS, TEACHERS , TRAINERS, IS ,ARE WE PROVIDING THESE VALUES TO THE CHILDREN NOT BY PREACHING BUT BY PRACTISING?
"DONOT WORRY THAT YOUR CHILDREN NEVER LISTEN TO YOU:WORRY THAT THEY ARE ALWAYS WATCHING YOU" (ROBERT FULGUM) .ARE WE PROPER ROLE MODELS FOR OUR CHILDREN?
WE HAVE BECOME SO SOPHISTICATED, SO ENMESHED IN THE TRAPPINGS OF THE WORLD, THAT WE HAVE BEEN ENRICHED IN A LOT OF WAYS AND IMPOVERISHED IN MORE IMPORTANT WAYS.WE ARE SO GOOD AT MINIMISING THE DOMAIN OF GODS, INTRUDING ON HOLY PLACES,CLAIMING IT AS OUR OWN THAT WE ARE ENDING UP WITH LOT TO FEEL PROUD ABOUT, BUT NOTHING TO INSPIRE US (ROBERT.S.KUSHNER AUTHOR OF WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN TO GOOD PEOPLE) .KUSHNER CONTENDS THAT THERE ARE TWO ACTS IN LIFE ACT 1 IS CALLED "ACHIEVE" AND ACT 2 IS CALLED"CONNECT".IN TODAY"S WORLD WE BEHAVE LIKE ACHIEVE IS THE ONLY THING THAT MATTERS.MANY PEOPLE NEVER GET TO "CONNECT" WHICH MEANS FULFILLMENT.
THE ISSUE IS ARE WE IN THE RAT RACE OF ACHIEVING, FORGETTING THE COMMENT OF LILY TOMLIN "THE PROBLEM WITH BEING IN RAT RACE IS EVEN IF YOU WIN , YOU ARE STILL A RAT"
AS UDAYABHASKAR COMMENTED CAN WE REALISE THAT WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS HAVING SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE, BUT SPIRITUAL BEINGS HAVING HUMAN EXPERIENCE .CAN WE REALISE THAT THIS LIFE IS VERY TEMPORARY AND IS LIKE A GARMENT WHICH OUR SOUL WEARS AND WE HAVE TO LEAVE IT ONE DAY OR OTHER.CAN WE REALISE ,AS Srj SAYS THAT OUR INNER SPIRIT IS NOT CONFINED AND IS CAPABLE OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE WHICH TAKES US TO HIGHER LEVELS OF SUBLIME SPIRITUALITY?
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WHICH ARE VALUES DO THE PARENTS GIVE PRIORITY WHILE REARING THEIR CHILDREN?
Do we vote for altruism against our rights? .It is good to establish truth justice respect and courtesy then if we want to call it as compassion and courtesy and then charity, solidarity towards the poor. How many parents isolate their children from their peer group for selfish motives? I repeat the words of Dinakara Rao:
THAT WE HAVE BEEN ENRICHED IN A LOT OF WAYS AND IMPOVERISHED IN MORE IMPORTANT WAYS.
Do we teach our children to defend the truth with firmness but with gentleness and forgive with compassion without humiliating the human dignity?. Do we question the background of our neighbour and instead of getting scandalized; do we respect the culture and undertake efforts towards a positive change for better? Are we ready to share our inner talents and material means with who have not? Are we ready to win by losing the battle and give a moral blow with gentleness?
Today’s formula is “GIVE THE BEST TO THE CHILD” Is really the best what we offer to our children?
Let me thank you Dinakara rao for making me reflect. I hope you will coment still more upon this
Tnank you